Stephanie + Justin Chateau La Mer Wedding ceremonyWe felt like we were talking to a friend, and she made our ceremony one to remember.
A wedding ceremony, written for who you actually are
An intimate outdoor ceremony in a landscape setting, light coming through the trees Destination weddings.
I'm based in NYC, but I'll travel to officiate wherever the two of you are getting married.
Act 02 What it feels like
Dominique & Ellis · Charleston, SC
What a destination script looks like
Here is how a ceremony reads when the couple lives in Brooklyn and the wedding happens an ocean away.
[to everyone]
Most of the people in this courtyard checked a bag to be here. Amara's aunts flew from Toronto, Jonah's college roommates came from three different time zones, and I watched two of you sleep through the entire flight out of JFK on Thursday. These two know what they asked of you, and this ceremony is partly a thank-you for coming this far.
[to both]
For the paperwork people among us, and every family has a few, Amara and Jonah signed their marriage license at the City Clerk in Manhattan on Tuesday, so the legal part is already done. What happens here is the wedding they actually wanted, in the place they wanted it, with everyone they love inside one set of walls.
[to Amara]
Amara, when we talked over video back in the spring, you had your laptop propped on a moving box, and you told me Jonah built a spreadsheet for this trip with a tab for every single day, then went quiet when I asked what he wanted to say to you. You said you loved that about him and that you'd deny it if I brought it up. I'm bringing it up.
[to Jonah]
Jonah, you told me why it had to be Portugal. Your grandfather left Lisbon at nineteen, talked about the light here for the next fifty years, and never made it back. The first time you brought Amara to see it, she stood in this courtyard and said, so this is what he meant.
[a pause]
Take a minute, both of you, because dinner can wait and this is the hour of light your grandfather kept talking about.
[the vows]
Jonah, will you take Amara as your wife? Will you keep building the spreadsheets, keep leaving room in them for her, and keep choosing her, at home in Brooklyn and everywhere else the two of you end up?
[Jonah]
I do.
[to Amara]
Amara, will you take Jonah as your husband? Will you keep telling him the truth the way you told it to me on that video call, and keep choosing him, on the easy days and the hard ones?
[Amara]
I do.
[the rings]
These rings crossed the Atlantic in Amara's carry-on because neither of them was willing to trust the checked bags. Take your time putting them on each other; the photographer has plenty of light left.
[to the room]
When you're home and somebody asks how the trip was, tell them about this part. Tell them the wind came up over the hills right as the rings went on, and that Jonah got through his vows in one piece, which several of you predicted he would not.
[pronounced]
The State of New York made this marriage legal three days ago at a clerk's window on Worth Street, and this is the part the clerk's office does not offer: Amara and Jonah, in front of everyone who crossed an ocean to be here, I now pronounce you married. Jonah, kiss your wife.
Act 03 Architecture
What is included
What you get when the wedding is a plane ride away.
The same conversation-first ceremony I write at home in New York, plus the licensing homework, the early arrival, and the travel plan a destination wedding needs.
- Chapter 01
Planning happens over video, wherever you both are.
All of the prep runs over video, scheduled around your time zone and mine. We start with the long conversation about the two of you, the same one I'd have with you over coffee in Brooklyn, and later we do a virtual walk-through of the venue, so I've seen your ceremony spot on a screen well before I stand in it.
- Chapter 02
The license question gets answered on the first call.
Marriage law is the part couples worry about most, and the rules honestly vary. Some states accept my New York ordination as it stands, some want a local registration step first, and most foreign countries require a civil ceremony at home before you travel. I figure out which case is yours on our first call and walk you through it.
- Chapter 03
I arrive two days early, three if it's complicated.
The day before your wedding I'm walking the ceremony site, meeting your planner, and running your rehearsal, so by the wedding itself the space is familiar to me instead of new. If the venue is tricky or the legal side needs a local stop, I build in a third day.
- Chapter 04
Travel costs are agreed before you book me.
Travel and lodging are quoted on top of the ceremony fee, in writing, before you commit to anything. The usual shape is economy or better on flights over four hours and a mid-tier hotel within fifteen minutes of the venue, close enough that your ceremony never depends on a forty-minute drive going well.
- Chapter 05
A ceremony that sounds like the place you chose.
You picked Charleston, or the Catskills, or a hillside outside Lisbon for a reason, and the ceremony should say so. I write in where we are and why it mattered enough to fly everyone there, alongside the story of the two of you, and you hear every draft over video before anyone travels.
- Chapter 06
A local officiant can sign while I do the ceremony.
When the legal logistics in your state or country get heavy, there's a clean split: a local officiant handles the signature in their jurisdiction, and I write and deliver the ceremony itself. Your guests hear one ceremony either way, and the paperwork is filed by someone licensed exactly where you're marrying.
Act 03 Investment
From $2,000. Custom quotes after our first conversation.
Act 04 The places
The placesWhere couples have flown me to marry them.
A lot of my travel weddings stay within driving distance, in the Hudson Valley, the Catskills, the Hamptons, and upstate New York. The farther ones have taken me to Charleston, Savannah, Italy, and Portugal. Tell me where yours is and I'll tell you honestly what it would take to get me there.
Act 05 The voices
A handful of voices.
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Millie + Rick THC The Hops Company, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn, working with you has been a wonderful experience for us!!! . We truly value the time you took to get to know us, to personally select words and passages that you knew would be meaningful for our ceremony. You really made our day special by making it special and as equally important to you as well. We truly appreciate the caring and love that went into your work! ♥️ THANK YOU!!
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Hygdrea + Alex East Hampton, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn was a great officiant! She arrived early and was there to smooth over a lot of the obstacles I had on my wedding day! The ceremony was short and beautiful and I enjoyed every moment of it! She was amazing! Couldn’t have asked for a better person to help my husband and I start our new lives together!
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Erika + Willie The Elan, Lodi, NJ Wedding ceremonyRobyn was absolutely amazinggggggg!! She made such a stressful day run smoothly and helped me keep calm before walking into the ceremony room. I highly recommend anyone hiring her for their big day, she’s the biggest sweetheart and truly cares for her clients and making their special day even better!
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Gina + Matt Tim McLoone's Supper Club, Asbury Park NJ Wedding ceremonyWe feel as though we've gained a friend, and the ceremony was really special and beautiful.
Act 06 Questions
Questions I get about travelingThe four questions I hear on almost every destination call.
- Can you legally marry us in another state or country?
The honest answer is that it depends on where, and figuring that out is my job on our first call. Some states accept my New York ordination as it stands, some ask me to complete a local registration first, and most foreign countries require a civil ceremony at home before you travel. Whichever case is yours, I'll tell you plainly what it means and exactly what to do about it, so the legal side is settled months before anyone packs a bag.
- How do travel costs work?
Travel and lodging are quoted on top of the ceremony fee, and we agree on every number before you book me. The typical shape is economy or better on flights over four hours, plus a mid-tier hotel within fifteen minutes of the venue so I can get to your rehearsal and your ceremony without depending on anyone's shuttle. You'll see the full quote in writing before anything is booked.
- When do you arrive?
Two days before the wedding at minimum, and three if the venue or the legal side is complicated. The first day I walk the ceremony site, meet your planner, and run your rehearsal, and on the wedding day I'm there early, the same as I would be in New York. Arriving any later leaves no cushion for a delayed flight or a venue surprise, and your wedding is the wrong place to test my luck.
- Can a local officiant handle the legal part while you do the ceremony?
Yes, and in a lot of countries it's the cleanest path. A local officiant or civil registrar handles the legal signature in their jurisdiction while I write and deliver the actual ceremony, and plenty of my couples marrying abroad also sign at the City Clerk in New York before they fly. Your guests hear one ceremony, written for the two of you, and the paperwork is handled by someone licensed exactly where it needs to be.
From the journal
Traditions that travel with you.
Act 07 The invitation
Tell me about your day.
I will write back the same week.
Available 2026 + 2027 · NYC and destination · Bookings limited