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Caribbean Wedding Traditions Worth Keeping
A couple sat in my office in Crown Heights, both second-generation, one side Guyanese and one side Trinidadian, and the bride said, "We want it to feel Caribbean, but we don't.
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If you’re officiating or writing it yourselves Sample ceremony script The complete ceremony I’d hand you if you had to read one aloud this weekend Get the script -
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If it’s your wedding Five Vow Questions Five questions that take you from a blank page to a first draft of your vows in one evening Get the worksheet
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Governors Island Wedding | NYC Ceremony Guide
The first Governors Island wedding I officiated, I spent the ten minutes before the processional doing math on a ferry app instead of reading my notes. Half the guest list was.
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How to Officiate a Wedding: A First-Timer's Step-by-Step Guide (2026)
How to officiate a wedding when you've never done it before, from someone who's coached a lot of nervous first-timers through their first ceremony.
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Best Anniversaries to Renew Vows | Don't Wait
A couple I worked with spent years saying "we'll do it at 25." Then her mother got sick, and waiting four more years for a tidy number suddenly felt absurd. They renewed at year.
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GUIDEWhat Is a Unity Ceremony? The Complete Guide
What a unity ceremony is, where it fits in your wedding, and how to choose the right ritual, from an officiant who's performed them at 300+ weddings.
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The One-Day Officiant License in NYC: How It Actually Works (2026)
NYC has two ways to legally officiate a wedding, and most articles confuse them. Here's the one-day license, the full registration, and which is yours.
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African Wedding Traditions, Explained With Respect
African wedding traditions by people and region: the Akan knocking, the Yoruba engagement, the Igbo kola and wine-carrying, libation, aso ebi and the broom, with how to include one or two without flattening them.
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Where to Elope in NYC: Best Spots, Costs & Packages
Last spring I married a couple at Wagner Cove on a Saturday in May, peak season, the lake full of rowboats. They'd braced for chaos. We tucked under that little wooden gazebo, the.
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Ways to Include Family in Your Wedding Ceremony (Matched to Comfort, Not Just Closeness)
A menu of real ways to give parents, grandparents, siblings, and kids a role in your ceremony, matched to comfort level, plus honoring a loved one who's passed and how to keep it from running long.
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Lasso Ceremony (El Lazo): Meaning, How It Works, and the Script
The wedding lasso explained: el lazo's meaning, who the padrinos are, how it works in a Catholic Mass, and the full script, honored properly.
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Hindu Wedding Ceremony, Explained for Guests and Couples
What happens at a Hindu wedding ceremony, in order: the mandap and sacred fire, the seven steps, the mangalsutra and sindoor, how long it runs, and how an interfaith couple can co-lead it with a pandit.
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Vow Renewal Officiant, How to Ask + What to Send
A couple who'd been married twenty-two years got on a call with me and asked, almost sheepishly, who they were supposed to "get" to make the renewal official. I told them the.
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Interfaith Wedding Ceremony
At a Brooklyn ceremony I officiated, the bride's grandmother held a Catholic rosary in one hand and watched a glass break under the groom's foot. Both sides cried at the same moment. Here's how you build that.
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Can a Friend Officiate Your Wedding? The Honest Guide (2026)
How to have a friend legally officiate your wedding, write the ceremony, and avoid the one mistake that actually matters, from an NYC officiant who's seen it go both ways.
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Ring Exchange Wording
A groom once handed me both rings before the ceremony with the kind of relief you give someone holding your wallet at the beach. Twenty minutes later, mid-vow, his hands were.
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How to Get Ordained Online to Officiate a Wedding (2026)
How to get ordained online for free with AMM or the ULC, why the county clerk decides whether it counts, which states require registration, and how to sign and return the license correctly.
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Wedding Traditions Explained: Where They Came From, What's Myth, and What to Keep
An NYC officiant traces where common wedding traditions actually come from, which romantic backstories are myth, and how to keep, cut, or reinvent each one with respect.
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Unity Sand Ceremony: Full Script, Color Meanings, and the Mistakes That Muddy It
Everything for a unity sand ceremony: the word-for-word script, a color-meaning chart, the blended-family version, and the pouring mistake that muddies the layers.
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15 Wedding Ceremony Mistakes I See Most (and How to Avoid Them)
A few summers ago I stood at the front of a Brooklyn rooftop ceremony, mic in hand, facing about ninety guests who were all squinting and sweating. The couple had picked 4 p.m. in.
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NYC City Hall Wedding: Everything You Need to Know (2026)
What a City Hall wedding in NYC is really like: booking both appointments on Project Cupid, the $60 in fees, the 24-hour wait, witnesses, photos, and how to add your own vows.
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DIY Wedding Ceremony: A Full Template You Can Actually Use
Two summers ago I sat in the third row at a friend-officiated wedding. The couple wanted me there as a guest, not a vendor, so I left the clipboard at home. The best man stood up,.
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The Wedding Officiant Checklist a Pro Actually Uses (2026)
A working officiant's checklist for before, during, and after the ceremony, including the items first-timers forget most often.
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Jamaican Wedding Traditions: A Jamaican Officiant's Guide
The first time I officiated a wedding for a Jamaican family in Brooklyn, the bride's aunt pulled me aside before the ceremony and whispered a question. Had the cake been soaking.
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How to Write a Unity Ceremony Script: The 5-Step Formula I Use for Every Ritual
The exact 5-step formula I use to write unity ceremony scripts that don't read like greeting cards, plus movement cues, personalization questions, and how to script around wind, fire, and awkward silence.
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What Does a Wedding Officiant Actually Do? (The Visible and Invisible Job)
The officiant's job is far more than the ten minutes you see. Here's the visible and invisible work, from someone who does it and teaches it.
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Wedding Processional Order
At a rehearsal in Central Park last spring, the bride's divorced parents hadn't been in the same room in eleven years. We had ninety seconds of aisle to get through, and the whole.
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NYC Marriage License: Step-by-Step Guide (2026)
A couple once called me from a hotel lobby an hour before their rooftop ceremony, panicked. They'd picked up their license at 4 PM the day before, and the rooftop slot was 3 PM..
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Handfasting Ceremony: History, Script, and How to Tie the Knot (Literally)
Handfasting explained: the real origin of 'tying the knot,' a word-for-word script, cord color meanings, and the binding technique that leaves a real knot.
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Microwedding Guide: How to Plan a Small NYC Wedding
A couple booked me last spring for nineteen guests in a SoHo loft. Halfway through their vows, the groom's grandmother, who had flown in from Kingston and barely knew a soul in.
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Do You Need an Officiant to Get Married? (State-by-State)
A few summers ago a groom pulled me aside ten minutes before his ceremony, gray in the face, and whispered, "My cousin was supposed to get ordained online and marry us, but he.
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Bilingual Wedding Ceremony
A few years back I stood in front of a couple where the groom's side had flown in from Bogotá and spoke almost no English, while the bride's grandparents in the front row spoke.
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The Best Non-Religious Wedding Ceremony Readings (That Actually Work)
A best man once stood up at a Brooklyn rooftop wedding holding his phone, scrolled, squinted, and read four minutes of a poem he had clearly found that morning. The screen dimmed.
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A Complete Wedding Ceremony Script You Can Actually Use (2026)
A full wedding ceremony script you can read or adapt, with the legal wording included and an officiant's notes on where to slow down and look up.
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Jewish Wedding Ceremony: Rituals and Order, Explained
The first time I stood under a chuppah, I was the non-rabbinic half of a co-officiated ceremony, and a cantor leaned over to me right before the procession and said, "You hold the.
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Brooklyn Bridge Park Wedding Ceremony | Full Guide
The first time I officiated on Pier 1, a tourist holding a hot dog stopped dead in the middle of the promenade, figured out what he was watching, and started clapping before I'd.
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Wine Ceremony: Unity Wine, Wine Blending, and the Script That Won't Taste Like Vinegar
What a wine ceremony is, how wine blending works, the two main versions, how to keep the blend from tasting awful, non-alcoholic options, and a full script. From an officiant who runs them.
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GUIDEGetting Married in NYC: The Complete Guide From a Working Officiant
The marriage license, the 24-hour wait, who can legally sign, City Hall vs Central Park vs a venue, real costs, and a working timeline. From the officiant who files the paperwork.
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Vow Renewal vs Wedding: The Real Differences
A couple sat across from me last spring, planning what they kept calling their vow renewal. Twenty minutes in, the wife asked me, almost shyly, whether they'd "sign something" at.
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Wedding Officiant Speech
The groom's college roommate stood at the front of a Brooklyn rooftop with eight pages of single-sided printer paper in his hands, and the wind took page three right off the edge.
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Wedding Ceremony Order
I was three feet from a couple in Central Park, mid-ceremony, when the bride leaned in and whispered, "Wait, are we married yet?" They were. They'd been married for about ninety.
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Ring Warming Ceremony: How It Works, the Script, and the Lost-Ring Fix
How a ring warming ceremony works, the wording for guests, when to use it, and the simple ribbon trick that solves the lost-ring fear. From an officiant who runs them.
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Conservatory Garden Wedding NYC | Planning Guide
I officiated a wedding in the South Garden, and an hour before the ceremony the bride asked me whether we could move the chairs into a half-circle. There were no chairs. There are.
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Blended Family Unity Ceremony: Honest Scripts, the Consent Conversation, and What the Ritual Can't Do
How to plan a blended family unity ceremony that fits your actual family: five ritual formats with honest failure modes, a word-for-word script, step-parent vow lines, and the consent conversation almost nobody talks about.
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Wedding Ceremony Readings That Actually Move a Room
I once watched a groom's college roommate read the "becoming Real" passage from the Velveteen Rabbit at a rooftop ceremony in Brooklyn, and by the third line I could see the front.
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Wedding Ceremony Programs: What to Include + Wording
I was standing at the front of a Brooklyn rooftop while the couple's grandmothers wound a cord around their joined hands, and I watched a woman in the second row lean over and.
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Catholic Wedding Ceremony: Order, Rules, and What to Expect
A few summers ago a couple sat across from me, half-laughing and half-panicked. His grandmother wanted a Catholic wedding, she was raised Methodist, and they'd already put a.
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GUIDEHow to Elope in NYC: The Complete Guide
The marriage license, the best locations, how to tell your family, what the day actually looks like. Everything from a NYC officiant who has done this hundreds of times.
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37 Vow Renewal Ideas, Intimate to Big Party
I once officiated a vow renewal that cost more than my first car, and the room stayed dry-eyed the whole way through. Gorgeous florals, a string trio, a couple in second-look.
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Vow Renewal Invitation Wording: Examples for Every Style
I was standing at the front of a garden renewal for a couple celebrating thirty years when I caught a guest in the third row lean over to her husband and whisper, loud enough for.
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Central Park Wedding Locations: A Ranked Guide to the Best Spots
I once had a couple stand at Bow Bridge at 7am on a Tuesday in October, completely alone, the water flat as glass behind them. Ninety minutes later, after we'd finished and walked.
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Vow Renewal Ceremony Script, Copy & Customize
The couple I renewed last fall had been married twenty-six years, and the husband cried before I'd gotten three words out. His wife squeezed his hand and whispered, "We made it,".
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Black Wedding Traditions: History and How to Honor Them
A few summers ago I stood with a couple in a Brooklyn backyard, both of them in their forties, both a little nervous about the broom leaning against the fence. The bride leaned.
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Wedding Ceremony Script Examples: Templates for Every Style
A few years back, a bride's brother stood up to officiate with his script printed in a font so small he had to hold the page at arm's length. He read the whole thing head-down,.
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How to Write Vow Renewal Vows + Examples
I was standing beside a couple at their 25th when the wife read the line, "and the year I was in the hospital, you slept in that terrible chair every single night." The front row.
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How Much Does a Wedding Officiant Cost? (2026 Pricing Guide)
What a wedding officiant really costs in 2026, broken down by type, region, and what's included, from an NYC officiant who's done 300+ ceremonies.
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How to Write a Wedding Ceremony (With the Structure Pros Use)
A blank page is the scariest part of officiating. Here's the proven ceremony structure that takes you from dread to a finished draft in one sitting.
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Central Park Wedding Permit: The Complete 2026 Guide
Last spring I married a couple at Bow Bridge who had spent six weeks getting their permit exactly right. Fifteen minutes before their vows, a tour group of forty wandered onto the.
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Renew Your Vows After Hard Times: Scripts + Guide
A few years ago I stood with a couple in their backyard, twelve folding chairs, the two of them married nineteen years. She had finished chemo eight weeks before. He had spent.
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23 Unity Ceremony Ideas, Ranked by an Officiant Who's Performed Them All
Every unity ceremony idea worth considering, ranked and explained by an officiant who's performed them at 300+ weddings, with a compare-at-a-glance table and how to choose yours.
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Love Lock Ceremony: Script + How to Do It Right
A couple once handed me a padlock thirty seconds before their processional and asked me to make sure it worked. I clicked it shut on the program table, popped it open again, and.
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Tree Planting Ceremony: How It Works, the Script, and the Apartment Version
How a tree planting unity ceremony works, the script, and how to pull it off even in an apartment, from an officiant who's performed it outdoors and in.
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Wagner Cove Central Park Wedding: The Park's Most Private Spot
Everything I tell couples before a Wagner Cove ceremony: how many people really fit, how to find the hidden steps, permits and costs, and why sunrise is the hour to book.
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Shakespeare Garden Central Park Wedding | Ceremony Guide
I married a couple here on a Wednesday in late April with eight people watching, and at one point the whole garden went so quiet you could hear a robin somewhere up by the castle..
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Ladies Pavilion Central Park Wedding | Ceremony Guide
Halfway through a ceremony here last spring, the bride's grandmother reached out and closed her hand around the cast-iron rail. She was 88, she had insisted on standing, and the.
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20 Intimate NYC Wedding Venue Ideas
I once officiated a wedding in a restaurant private room rated for eighty people, with twenty-two guests inside it. The couple was glowing, the food was good, and I spent the.
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Gapstow Bridge Wedding Ceremony in Central Park
My first Gapstow ceremony started at 6:50 in the morning. Two people, two friends as witnesses, and a photographer crouched at the water's edge. By the time I said "you may kiss,".
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Cop Cot Wedding Ceremony in Central Park
The first time I married a couple at Cop Cot, the sky had been threatening all morning, and twenty minutes before the ceremony it opened up. Their friends scattered under store.
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Cherry Hill Wedding Ceremony in Central Park
The first time I officiated at Cherry Hill, the couple had booked Bethesda Terrace, then walked it the week before and panicked at the four other photo shoots stacked up under the.
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The Real Guide to Getting Married on Bow Bridge
A couple asked me three days out whether I could "get the bridge cleared" for ten minutes so their vows would be private. I told them the truth I tell everyone, which is that.
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Bethesda Terrace Wedding Ceremony NYC | Full Guide
How I run a Bethesda Terrace ceremony: the permit and its 25-guest cap, where to stand, the hour before the buskers arrive, and how vows carry with no microphone.
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How to Become a Wedding Officiant in NYC (Step-by-Step, 2026)
A man called me three weeks before his sister's wedding in Fort Greene, half in a panic. She had asked him to marry her and her fiancée, he had said yes on the spot, and then he.
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How to Write Wedding Vows (Even If You're Not a Writer)
A groom once handed me his vows folded into a tiny square, the paper soft from being opened and refolded a hundred times. He'd written one line on it: "I don't know how to do.
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Vow Renewal NYC: How to Plan One That Actually Means Something
A couple married 22 years asked me to meet them at Wagner Cove on a Tuesday morning. Twelve people, no chairs, a thermos of coffee going around, and him reading vows off the back.
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Unplugged Ceremony Scripts That Actually Work (2026)
I was at the front of a loft ceremony in Brooklyn, mid-sentence, when a guest in the third row stood straight up and stepped into the aisle to film the bride walking in. Phone.
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Wine Box Ceremony: How It Works, the Letters, and the Full Script
How a wine box ceremony works, what to write in the letters, the full officiant script, and the variations that make it yours, from an officiant who's performed it.
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Whitby Castle Weddings: An Insider's Guide
The first time I drove up to Whitby for a ceremony, I'll be honest, I was bracing for a Disney facade. What I found was a real stone castle on a hill in Rye, with Long Island.
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Whiskey Unity Ceremony: Script, Barrel Logistics, and the Mistakes Nobody Warns You About
Everything for a whiskey unity ceremony: the word-for-word script, the barrel and spirit-type mistakes that ruin the blend, the infinity-bottle alternative, and how to do it if one of you doesn't drink.
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Guide To Getting Married In Westchester, NY
Last spring I stood under the stone archway at Whitby Castle in Rye, wind coming off Milton Harbour, while a couple from Brooklyn read vows they'd written on the train ride up..
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Unity Candle Ceremony: Word-for-Word Script and What to Do When It Won't Light
The word-for-word unity candle script I use, the supplies, the blended-family variation, and the graceful save for when the flame won't catch.
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Secular Wedding Ceremony: Scripts & Ideas (No Religion, All Heart)
A few years ago a couple sat across from me and one of them said, almost apologizing, "We don't want any God stuff, but we also don't want it to feel like the DMV." I've thought.
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Jumping the Broom: The History, the Meaning, and How to Honor It
Jumping the broom, explained by a Black NYC officiant: the real history, what it symbolizes, how to do the jump, and how to honor the tradition with weight.
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An LGBTQ+ Wedding Ceremony, Written to Fit You (Not a Swapped-Pronoun Template)
Two brides stood at the back of a garden in Brooklyn and neither of them moved. Both of their dads were waiting to walk them up, and nobody had decided who would go first, because.