Stephanie + Justin Chateau La Mer Wedding ceremonyWe felt like we were talking to a friend, and she made our ceremony one to remember.
A wedding ceremony, written for who you actually are
Two partners holding hands during a wedding ceremony, soft afternoon light LGBTQ+ wedding ceremonies.
Your wedding, with the same warmth, the same craft, and zero second-guessing.
Act 02 What it feels like
Nora & James · Ladies Pavilion
What one of these scripts sounds like
This is what a ceremony for two grooms sounds like when I'm the one writing it.
[to the room]
Before we get started, I want you to look around for a second. Some of you have known Marcus since grade school, and one of you handed Theo a spare key at nineteen and told him to stay as long as he needed. Every one of you is in a chair today because you showed up for these two long before there was a wedding to show up to.
[to Theo]
Theo, your mother is sitting in the second row, and she asked me to say out loud that she took the long way to that chair and she is glad she made it. I told her I would, and looking at the faces out here, I think everyone is glad right along with her.
[to both]
You two settled on the word husbands early. Marcus tried it out loud over eggs at a diner on Atlantic Avenue, and Theo said it back before the coffee showed up, and that was the whole conversation.
[a grin]
When they filled out the license at the City Clerk's office, the form let each of them choose bride, groom, or spouse. They both picked groom, and Marcus asked the clerk if he could circle his twice.
[a beat]
We are in no hurry this afternoon, because some of the people in these chairs have waited years to hear what comes next, and a few more minutes will not hurt anybody.
[the vows]
Marcus, do you take Theo as your husband, on the loud days and the quiet ones, with everything you know about him and everything he has not shown you yet?
[Marcus]
I do.
[to Theo]
Theo, do you take Marcus as your husband, the man who learned your friends' birthdays before he ever met your mother, and will you hold on to him through whatever the years bring?
[Theo]
I do.
[to guests]
Before I pronounce them, I have one thing to say to the rest of you, because Marcus and Theo were leaning on this room long before they booked a venue. They are going to need you on the ordinary days the same way they needed you getting here, so when they call, keep answering.
[pronounced]
Then by the authority given to me by the State of New York, and with all of you as witnesses, I pronounce you husbands. Gentlemen, go ahead and kiss.
Act 03 Architecture
What comes with the booking
What you get when you book me for your ceremony.
One good conversation at the start covers names, words, and family, and then the script and I carry those answers through the rehearsal, the ceremony, and the paperwork.
- Chapter 01
A first conversation that covers names, pronouns, and family.
We start with a long conversation, in person or over video, and part of it is me asking about names, pronouns, titles, and who counts as family in your room. You answer those questions once, and the script carries the answers from there, so you are never correcting me at the rehearsal or briefing me before I meet your people.
- Chapter 02
A script written in the words you already use for each other.
If you call each other husbands, the ceremony says husbands, and if you would rather skip titles and use only your names, I write it that way. New York's marriage form lets each partner choose bride, groom, or spouse, and I follow the same rule when I write: the word you pick is the word your guests hear.
- Chapter 03
Chosen family included and named from the front.
Some of my couples stand in front of chosen family entirely, and the ceremony says so from the front. Others want the friends who held everything together honored right next to the relatives who raised them. You tell me who belongs in that circle, and I write them in as family, because that is what they have been.
- Chapter 04
An option to acknowledge family who took longer to get here.
Some families were there from day one, and some needed time before they came around. One true sentence about a parent who took the long way can mean more to that parent than any toast, and it never has to become the subject of the day. You decide whether it goes in, and you read every word before I say it.
- Chapter 05
Vow help for each of you, separately if you want it.
I work with each of you one on one if you want a second set of eyes, so the vows come out sounding like the person saying them instead of something borrowed from the internet. Whatever you call each other in the kitchen at 11pm is welcome at the altar, and some of the best vows I have heard started exactly there.
- Chapter 06
The ceremony itself, plus the license signing and filing.
I confirm names, pronouns, and titles well before the rehearsal, so nothing is being decided at the altar. On the day, while the two of you are being hugged within an inch of your lives, I handle the signatures, file the license with the City Clerk, and follow up until the certified copy arrives in your mailbox.
Act 03 Investment
From $1,500. Custom quotes after our first conversation.
Act 04 The places
The venuesWhere my couples get married across the city.
I have officiated at Wagner Cove, Bow Bridge, Cop Cot, and more DUMBO rooftops than I can count, often for couples who walked in expecting to spend part of the day on guard and relaxed somewhere during the welcome. Tell me your date and the feel you're after, and I'll tell you where to stand.
Act 05 The voices
A handful of voices.
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Millie + Rick THC The Hops Company, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn, working with you has been a wonderful experience for us!!! . We truly value the time you took to get to know us, to personally select words and passages that you knew would be meaningful for our ceremony. You really made our day special by making it special and as equally important to you as well. We truly appreciate the caring and love that went into your work! ♥️ THANK YOU!!
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Hygdrea + Alex East Hampton, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn was a great officiant! She arrived early and was there to smooth over a lot of the obstacles I had on my wedding day! The ceremony was short and beautiful and I enjoyed every moment of it! She was amazing! Couldn’t have asked for a better person to help my husband and I start our new lives together!
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Erika + Willie The Elan, Lodi, NJ Wedding ceremonyRobyn was absolutely amazinggggggg!! She made such a stressful day run smoothly and helped me keep calm before walking into the ceremony room. I highly recommend anyone hiring her for their big day, she’s the biggest sweetheart and truly cares for her clients and making their special day even better!
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Gina + Matt Tim McLoone's Supper Club, Asbury Park NJ Wedding ceremonyWe feel as though we've gained a friend, and the ceremony was really special and beautiful.
Act 06 Questions
Questions I get on first callsThe four questions queer couples ask me before booking.
- Will you actually be comfortable with our story and our family structure?
Yes, and I understand why you're asking, because plenty of couples have sat across from a wedding vendor and felt the conversation go stiff. I have written ceremonies for couples with complicated family politics and for couples whose road was easy from the start, and the job is the same either way: tell the truth about the two of you and give the room something worth remembering. You will never have to manage me, and you don't need to soften any part of your life before you tell me about it.
- Can the ceremony name our chosen family?
Yes, by name and from the front. One of my couples had their college roommate stand where a parent traditionally would, and the ceremony explained why: she was the first person either of them told about the other, and their first Thanksgiving as a couple happened at her table. By the time I finished that part of the welcome, the room was applauding her.
- How do you handle our names, pronouns, and the words we use for each other?
I ask once, in the first conversation, and then the script gets it right from the welcome through the pronouncement. If the name on your paperwork is different from the name you go by, I use the one you go by everywhere except the legal documents, and you never have to remind me. Titles work the same way, since some couples want them in the welcome and some want none at all, so we settle all of it before I write a word.
- One of our families needed time to get here. Can the ceremony acknowledge that without dwelling on it?
Yes, and you control how much gets said, whether that is the whole arc, a single line, or nothing at all. Some couples want the story told out loud and some want the day to look only forward, and both choices make sense to me. Whatever you decide, we shape the wording together, and I never assume anything about your family that you haven't told me yourself.
From the journal
Ceremonies written to fit, not retrofitted.
Act 07 The invitation
Tell me about your day.
I will write back the same week.
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