Stephanie + Justin Chateau La Mer Wedding ceremonyWe felt like we were talking to a friend, and she made our ceremony one to remember.
A wedding ceremony, written for who you actually are
Robyn officiating a wedding ceremony in Central Park Wedding ceremonies in NYC.
A full ceremony, written for who you actually are. Honest vows, real laughter, the moment your guests will talk about for a decade.
Act 02 What it feels like
Mariana & Tomás · Brooklyn Botanic Garden
What a wedding script looks like
This is how a wedding ceremony reads when every line was written about the two people getting married.
[to everyone]
Welcome, everybody. Go ahead and sit. Camille and Marcus spent fourteen months planning this day, and when I asked them what mattered most, they didn't say the flowers or the food. They said they wanted the people in this room to feel like part of the marriage itself. So on their behalf, thank you for being here.
[to everyone]
For anyone who somehow hasn't heard the story, these two met at a mutual friend's birthday dinner, seated at opposite ends of a long table, and spent the entire night texting each other commentary about everyone in between. I have seen the screenshots. Some of you are in them.
[to Marcus]
Marcus, when the three of us sat down this spring, you told me you decided to propose on a completely ordinary Tuesday. Camille had a cold, you attempted her mother's soup recipe and got it wrong, and she ate the whole bowl anyway and told you it was wonderful. You said that was the moment. You drove to your parents' house the next morning to get the ring.
[to Camille]
And Camille, you told me you'd known for much longer. You said it's the way Marcus arrives early for everything that matters, dentist appointments included. For the record, he beat the caterers here this morning.
[to everyone]
Here is what I've learned from standing in this spot more times than I can count: the couples who do well are the ones who already treat ordinary Tuesdays like they matter. These two got engaged over a botched pot of soup on one of those Tuesdays, so I like their odds.
[the vows]
Marcus, do you take Camille to be your wife? Will you keep attempting the soup, keep showing up early, and keep choosing her through whatever the next fifty years bring?
[Marcus]
I do.
[to Camille]
Camille, do you take Marcus to be your husband? Will you keep eating the soup, keep saving him a seat at the good end of the table, and keep choosing him through whatever the next fifty years bring?
[Camille]
I do.
[the rings]
May I have the rings? Marcus's nephew has been guarding these since breakfast and patting his pocket the whole way down the aisle, so let's take them off his hands. These go on the left hand, and if a ring sticks at the knuckle, keep going, because that happens at more weddings than you'd guess and the marriage counts either way.
[to the couple]
In a moment these two are going to walk back up that aisle to a great deal of noise, and then dinner is on. Before that happens, Camille and Marcus, turn around and take a look at this room, because you will never again have all of these people gathered in one place for the two of you, and I want you to see it once with your own eyes.
[pronounced]
By the power vested in me by the State of New York, I now pronounce you married. Marcus, Camille, go ahead and kiss.
Act 03 Architecture
What is included
What you get when you book me for your wedding.
Here is the whole arc of working with me, from the first conversation to the certified copy of your license.
- Chapter 01
A real conversation before anything gets written.
Before I write a word, the three of us talk, over video or over coffee, whichever is easier for you. I'll ask about the proposal, but I get more from the small stuff: who cooks, what you tease each other about, the story your friends always ask you to retell. Everything I write starts in that conversation, which is why no two of my ceremonies sound alike.
- Chapter 02
A script written from scratch and revised until it sounds like you.
I draft the full ceremony from our conversation and send it to you to read. Then we revise, sometimes once, sometimes four times, until you can hear yourselves in every line. You'll know each word before the day, and anything that doesn't sound like you comes out.
- Chapter 03
Vow help for each of you, separately.
If you're writing your own vows, I work with each of you one-on-one, so neither of you sees the other's draft before the day. I give you a starting structure, read what you write, and help you cut the lines that sound like the internet instead of like you. Plenty of people tear up during this part, which I take as a good sign.
- Chapter 04
On the day, I'm there 90 minutes early.
I arrive 90 minutes before the ceremony starts. That time goes to checking sound, talking with your planner and photographer, and watching the room fill, because a ceremony for 150 guests paces differently than one for 30. By the time you reach the aisle, everything at the front has been handled for a while.
- Chapter 05
A rehearsal walk-through if you want one.
Some couples want a rehearsal and some don't, so I keep it optional. It's a 30-minute walk-through of the processional, the cues, and where everyone stands, and honestly it's for the wedding party's nerves more than mine. If a run-through would help your parents sleep the night before, we'll do it.
- Chapter 06
The license signed, filed, and followed up on.
You pick up the marriage license at any NYC City Clerk office, and that's the last legal errand you have to run. I sign it at the ceremony, file it afterward, and follow up until the certified copy arrives in your mailbox. Couples tell me this is the part they were happiest to hand off.
Act 03 Investment
From $1,500. Custom quotes after our first conversation.
Act 04 The places
The placesWhere I officiate weddings in New York.
I've officiated at Wagner Cove in the rain and on DUMBO rooftops in July heat, and I write a slightly different ceremony for each of these places, because the sound, the light, and the foot traffic never match. Tell me your date and where you're leaning, and I'll tell you what I know.
Act 05 The voices
A handful of voices.
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Millie + Rick THC The Hops Company, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn, working with you has been a wonderful experience for us!!! . We truly value the time you took to get to know us, to personally select words and passages that you knew would be meaningful for our ceremony. You really made our day special by making it special and as equally important to you as well. We truly appreciate the caring and love that went into your work! ♥️ THANK YOU!!
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Hygdrea + Alex East Hampton, CT Wedding ceremonyRobyn was a great officiant! She arrived early and was there to smooth over a lot of the obstacles I had on my wedding day! The ceremony was short and beautiful and I enjoyed every moment of it! She was amazing! Couldn’t have asked for a better person to help my husband and I start our new lives together!
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Erika + Willie The Elan, Lodi, NJ Wedding ceremonyRobyn was absolutely amazinggggggg!! She made such a stressful day run smoothly and helped me keep calm before walking into the ceremony room. I highly recommend anyone hiring her for their big day, she’s the biggest sweetheart and truly cares for her clients and making their special day even better!
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Gina + Matt Tim McLoone's Supper Club, Asbury Park NJ Wedding ceremonyWe feel as though we've gained a friend, and the ceremony was really special and beautiful.
Act 06 Questions
Common questionsFour things couples ask me before they book.
- How far in advance should we book?
Most NYC weddings book six to twelve months out, and the popular Saturdays in spring and fall are the first dates to go. If your wedding is closer than that, ask anyway, because openings come up more often than you'd think.
- Do you handle the marriage license?
You pick up the license at any NYC City Clerk office, and I take it from there. I sign it at the ceremony, file it afterward, and follow up until the certified copy arrives in your mailbox. Before your Clerk appointment I'll send you a short rundown of what to bring and when to go, so nothing trips you up at the window.
- Can you write in our cultural or religious traditions?
Yes, and it's some of my favorite writing to do. I've written Jumping the Broom, handfasting, Hindu pheras, the Persian sofreh aghd, Catholic-meets-secular services, and ceremonies for blended families where the kids had speaking parts. We talk through what each tradition means to you and your families, and I build it into the ceremony so it belongs there.
- What does the price include?
Everything from the first conversation through the filed license: the custom script and all its revisions, vow guidance for each of you, the rehearsal walk-through if you want it, the ceremony itself, and travel anywhere in NYC. Destination weddings are quoted separately, and I'm happy to travel.
From the journal
Ceremony planning, from the desk of a working officiant.
- Wedding processional order, explained
- Wedding traditions: where they came from, what to keep
- The best non-religious ceremony readings
- Do you need an officiant to get married?
- The ring warming ceremony, start to finish
- The wine ceremony: unity wine and wine blending
- How to build a bilingual wedding ceremony
- The Jewish wedding ceremony, ritual by ritual
- The 15 ceremony mistakes I see most
- Ceremony programs: what to include
Act 07 The invitation
Tell me about your day.
I will write back the same week.
Available 2026 + 2027 · NYC and destination · Bookings limited